Life

Life... what is life and WHY do we only have one? I am a christian but at times I doubt myself and the person who put us on this earth. Or HOW we got here. for ONCE I want a straight honest answer. Where did we come from... primates? or a so called god?, Why is it that earth is SO perfectly made down to the LAST blade of grass to where we are able to survive. Life... makes NO sense but we deal with it everyday. If we know the consequences of something why do we still do it?...There are SO many questions that even the smartest sientists can't answer... but will they go unanswered for ever?... or will one day someone find the truth. No one really knows. I guess we will just have to deal with life until that someday comes.

Tough Love

The people in our lives that we live with everyday have some type of emotion or feeling for us. Most of our family loves us but do you EVER realize how HARD on you they are? Well the ONLY explanation I can come up with is.. it's TOUGH LOVE! These people love you but discipline and tell when your doing things wrong so that you'll learn and UNDERSTAND! they ARE NOT doing it purposely to make you mad or annoyed unless it's your little 8 year old brother lol... =D Tough LOVE is an unhappy, unpleasant thing.. but will help you through your days and help you UNDERSTAND! and if it's family doing this to you more than likely you'll LEARN! lol...

Questions:

What is sadness. We know it's an emotion but why? do we get sad. and why does it stay with us..? here's ANOTHER question: I myself believe in god. But what made this world why is EVERYTHING like so perfectly planned to where we have just ENOUGH oxygen and HOW the water cycles move and EVERYTHING is SO perfectly made to where we are ABLE to live and survive?. And everyone KNOWs we have mass but what if there WASN'T gravity.. I mean I know we would float around but what about the people who are standing right side up since we have weight would we float away and way NOTHING or still be standing.. Also... what's out side of the universe are there ACTUALLY other life forms out there? And one LAST thing... If we had no gravity and all how would we know when the world was right side up if there's no top and bottom to our universe or galaxy?

Emotions

Many people tell you NOT to morne over things and to face your fears but what they don't UNDERSTAND is crying IS A WAY of facing them and coping with them... you are expressing your feelings and emotions... Crying shows you have feeling or a HEART for that someone OR something.. It shows you CARED.. and miss it. Love is a behavior not an emotion it's something you have EVERYDAY for that special someone not ONLY on days when your day is going well.

Myspace

Teenagers have a myspace cause they are bored. More than HALF of us are on there to see our friends and chat NOT meet random people online. We know right from wrong. and Myspace should NOT be all over the news.. There might be people getting rapped and stuff on there but that's because they GIVE OUT their personal info NOT because of myspace itself.. Tom made this site so people could have fun not get killed or for ANYONE to fight over it. Parents OVER REACT when.. Kids FINALLY get a myspace. and we WOULDN'T have to go behind our parents backs to get one if they would JUST TRSUT US!.I KNOW this sounds like a bunch of BS.. but it's TRUE!. Parents should learn to trust us more and KNOW we would do the right things and MAKE the right choices.. Myspace is sorta JUST AN EXCUSE for them to use against us kids and teenagers when they have parents have their OWN problems they can't figure out and they wanna yell and raise hell... Well that's their way of using it against us... and YES I agree it's NOT fair but what can we say we HAVE to listen to you guys so... It's off to boarding school and reading books :(

Rain "quote"

If you wanna see a rianbow you have to put up with the RAIN!

If you want true love you have to put up with the PAIN!

Jealousy "quote"

Jealousy is nothing more than a lack of self confidence!

Here are a few tips:

You might agree with it, but when it actually happens 99% of girls dont realize it 'til it is too late and that guy who did it is so frustrated that he has moved on to someone who will take notice.

From a guys point of view:

We don't care if you talk to other guys.

We don't care if you're friends with other guys.

But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.

It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

We don't care if a guy calls you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned.

Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. that it can't wait
till the morning.

Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/
cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.

Don't tell us we're wrong.

We'll stop trying to convince you.

The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Yeah, you can quote me.

Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood im in.

let us pay for you! dont "feel bad" about it

We enjoy doing it. It's expected.

Smile and say "thank you."

Kiss us when no one's watching.

If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed.

You don't have to get dressed up for us.

If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own.

We like you for who you are and not what you are.

honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up

Don't take everything we say seriously.

Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.

Don't get angry easily.

Stop using magazines/media as your bible.

Don't talk about how hott Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us.

It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.

Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful"

I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me
with "Hey handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of.

on the other hand im not sayin i woulndnt like it ether ; )

Girls, I cannot stress this enough:if you aren't being treated right by a guy, dont't wait for him to change.ditch his sorry,disgrace to the male population ass and find someone who will treat you with utter respect

Someone who will honor your morals.

Someone who will make you smile when you're at your
lowest.

Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.

Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.

Someone who will stop what theyre doing just to look you in the eyes....and say "i love you" ..and actually mean it.

Give the nice guys a chance

HINTS?!?!?!

*Holdin Hands
Girls :If you want to hold his hand, gently bump into it a couple of
times.
Guys : Grab it if it happens more than once.

*Cuddling
Girls : When you want to cuddle with him, tell him you're cold
Guys : Automatically move closer to her.

*Movies
Girls : During a movie, if he puts his arm around you, tilt your head on his shoulder
Guys : Lift her chin up and kiss her.

*Loving each other

Guys : When she tells you she loves you, look deep into her eyes, give her a peck on the lips, and tell her you love her
too... And mean it.

*Laying below the stars

Girls : When you're both laying under the stars, put your head on his chest and close your eyes as you listen to his steady heart beat
Guys : Whisper in her ear and link your hands with hers.


I hope you guys and girls take this advice cause it's not everyday that someone tells you step by step how to keep a relationship in good shape!Or keep it interesting!

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Falling in Love Once again...

I woke up every morningWith this smile on my faceBecause i just got done thinkingof your soft embrace.The looks you gave meMade me think you were feeling me tooSo i began to flirt a little bitAnd so did you =]Just thinking of you makes me happyEverytime i see you i get butterfliesI just love the way you make me feelI believe that you can be different from all the other guys.So this is the part where im suppose to say i love youBut in reality i want to but its to early for thatI believe it could be loveIm actually pretty sure it is perhaps

There was once a child...

Once upon a time there was a small child... a child with wide eyes of innocence and security. A child that could laugh and play. A child that could cry and be comforted. A child that could make silly faces in the mirror and be glad to see silly faces looking back.
One day, this little child was crushed. Maybe it was because this small child was made to feel no good. Told not to cry. Hit with a hand or a stick. Sexually abused. It might have been the parental conflicts and family dysfunction, it might have been dad's alcoholism or mom's push of food as comfort, or maybe the death or abandonment of one or both parents. Maybe it was the ridicule by peers or the ingrained phrase "you'd be better only if..." Maybe not all of these things, maybe just one... or maybe something else. Either way this child felt bad.
As this child grew so did the bad feelings. Sometimes it was easy to feel loved with a lot of ice-cream. Sometimes it felt good to let built up anger or sadness go with vomitting. It felt good to binge and then take laxatives as a means of reaffirming the bad feelings, to self-punish. Sometimes the small child felt in control of life restricting food intake or jogging for 3 hours. The only thing this small child knew was that losing weight would make life better, and that concentrating on the food made it forgettable.
The child became overweight, binging to fill the void. "Food is my only friend, it will comfort me." The child could not seem to get enough, the void was never filled but temporarily. Plus, the excess weight made it easy to keep people away. To steer clear of vulnerability. "Life would be better if I could just lose weight." Cook books, this diet, that diet, baking. Endless hours in the kitchen preparing food. This child began purging after binges... the tension and self-hate seemed to lift, and the guilt from feeling like a glutton for so many things, for feeling selfish, for making a mistake, would fade. Laxatives and diet pills, dieuretics and fasting. "My life will be good when I lose the weight." Striving for perfection, this child began to avoid food. No more than ________ calories today... no more than ________ tomorrow. The control was unbelievable! "I'm not feeling well" or "I already ate." No more silly faces, but a tired and broken body reflecting back in the mirror saying, "just a few more pounds and life will be better."
Headaches, dizziness, fatigue and joint pain. Isolation and lonliness. Hyperactivity and insomnia. Back and chest pains. Moodiness. Depression on top of depression. Sickness."Life will surely get better soon..."And then...this overweight, this "normal" weight, this underweight child died.
The doctors said,"heart attack," "kidney failure,""stroke.""We did all we could."
I cry for this child, in the end feeling alone and like no one cared. Feeling worthless and stupid, and like a burden to those in life. I cry for this wounded child whose life ends at 12, 15, 25, 38, 55, because of Compulsive Overeating, Anorexia or Bulimia. I cry as I read the words, carved into this childs' headstone, on a small grave now far away:
I need more time to find the real me...to fly like the birds... to be set free.Why couldn't I stop until I had died?It was hate for myself hidden inside.

Negative Voices

In terms of an Eating Disorder, the voices we hear, they are the voice we give to our own self-hate and lack of self-worth. They are sometimes referred to as negative voices, negative tapes, or negative thoughts.
For a person who has never suffered an Eating Disorder, the best way to understand the "voices" is to imagine your own self-dialogue. Have you ever made a mistake and berated yourself, in thought, for it? Have you ever had a hard time making a decision, and you mulled over all the pros and cons in your mind? Imagine that your own self-thinking and thoughts about yourself were nothing but negative, and imagine that it felt like the only way to get rid of that negative "voice" was by thinking about food, weight and eating.
As someone battling an Eating Disorder, there is so much confusion in hearing these "voices"... they speak from a place within us that is filled with low self-esteem, that wants to believe we deserve not to be happy, and to believe that we are worthless. I've heard them described as "loud thoughts", "my own head" and as "a voice/voices". They speak those things that convince us we're stupid, worthless, deserving to be unhappy, not to eat, to keep eating or that we have to get rid of what we ate. They tell us "the world would be better without you." They come from that place within us plagued with negativity and self-hate, encouraging us to continue with our Eating Disorder, and convincing us that we do not deserve recovery, that we deserve a life of pain.
The voices of our Eating Disorders also convince us we have no will power, that we are weak when we've eaten, and that no one will ever love us. They harass us with guilt and even berate us for the Eating Disorder behavior itself. It is no wonder recovery is so difficult and such hard work. We are battling with ourselves over what we are convinced we deserve (and that our negative voices keep reminding us of) as opposed to what we truly do deserve (recovery, happiness and self-love!).
Learning to deal with the voices is a difficult task... learning to not listen to them can be like killing your best friend. It's confusing and scary. In a lot of cases our Eating Disorders have kept us focused off of ourselves and emotions, and if we stop listening to the voices, well then what will feed our Eating Disorder? One of the essential ingredients to recovery is learning to love yourself, and the voices fight hard to keep that from happening. Once we can all conquer the voice or voices inside of us that continue to reinforce our negativity, we will find our path to the other side.

Have you ever...

Have you ever felt like breaking down.. and runng away...?
I have....=/
Life isn't simple.. it's not like eating a peice of pie... it's like hard candy you gotta work on it til you have the right chance to take a bite and make it different... The things in life aren' simple.. and will need work.. Did you know more than 83% of the time in our lives we try fixing problems that only god knows how to fix.. but we keep telling ourselves it'll work it's gotta.. but never happens.=/... We just need to know when we are about to do the wrong things that there is ALWAYS gonna be a consequence and there will ALWAYS be a backfire whether it be good or bad =/... Life is almost like a teacher and we are it's students.. You have all heard the saying we learn from our mistakes well... if the world is our teacher.. then we must be learning alot.. becuase of all the mistakes the world has and things but it seems no matter how much we pay attention we still make those SAME mistakes... over.. and... over again.. knowing the SAME result is gonna happen each time.. =/
What is it we don't understand?.. is it the wanting/ or need to do wrong things or just habit... or sin.... taking over..? who knows but what we do KNOW is that our mistakes will just get worse or bigger cause we don't learn from them... A wise man.. once said.. If you do not remember the past you are condemned to repeat it and he is right... It goes for everything no matter WHAT you do.. if you do not remember what you did wrong you'll make the same mistake twice or even MORE times..=/